To wrap up the week I’m going to talk a little bit about your mouth and how it pertains to body language. Your mouth gives away a myriad of incredibly signals but very few people realize, or have control over, the movements they make with their mouths.

The mouth can easily be hidden with papers or with a person’s hand but is something most can’t control unless they’re physically touching it. Smiling involves the entire face while fake facial expressions only involve the mouth. Here are a few things to look for when you assess a person’s face – specifically the mouth.

• Fake or pasted smiles appear on a person’s face very quickly, stay in place longer than a real smile would, and is limited to the person’s mouth alone. Their eyes don’t shine, their cheeks don’t move, and they don’t actually look happy. If you see a faked smile you should wonder why.
• People who smile with their lips closed, aka tight-lipped, are usually trying to hide something. They either have a secret or are rejecting you because they don’t like or trust you.
• When a person juts out his bottom lip he’s letting you know he is upset about something. Some people do this naturally when they are crying but a person doesn’t have to be crying to let you know something is wrong.
• If you notice someone biting his or her lip it may be because he feels as though he’s in a tense situation. Lip biting often indicates stress, tension, or anxiety or in rare cases may indicate a person is focused and concentrating on something.

These are, again, only a few examples of how the mouth is used in studying body language. You may see people poking their tongues out, chewing on pens or pencils, pursing their lips, biting their nails, or even covering with their hands. Each has something significant to say and it’s up to you to determine what each action really means in your own situational contexts.

Thanks again,
Sean

Sean McPheat
Managing Director
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We’re going to continue our study of body language by taking a close look at the eyes. The eyes play a huge role in an individual’s ability to express himself. They send several different non-verbal cues and if you know how to read the eyes you’ll be better able to anticipate the needs of your employees and clients alike.

The eyes are really amazing. You can look at someone from across a crowded room and instantly know whether or not he is looking back at your, or making eye contact. There are very few other communication gestures you can make with that same type of power. From a distance you can’t see what a person’s eyes are doing, aside from looking at you, but if you get closer you’ll be able to learn a lot more about what they’re thinking.

Here are just a few examples of how people move their eyes and what those movements mean:

• If a person’s eyes tend to look towards the right the person may be either guessing, creating a story, or formulating an outright lie. Children, for example, may be making up a fictional story, which is a sign of creativity. On the other hand, a person looking both to the right and down maybe thinking about how he feels about a situation – a response that may or may not be genuine.
• People who look towards their left when speaking are often trying to remember facts. They’re attempting to access their personal memory banks in order to participate in conversation. Those who look down and to the left, on the other hand, may be having an internal conversation.
• Those who shrug their eyes are typically frustrated with a situation. This type of shrug of the face may be accompanied with an upward eye roll, indicating a person is “looking up” for help or assistance.
• What if you see a person blinking frequently? These people are generally either very excited or are feelings the pressure of the situation. The average person blinks between 6 and 20 times each minute while an excited person can blink up to 100 times in that same time period.

These are just few examples of the things your eyes can say to others as you speak – and what the eyes of others are saying to you. Pay attention to the way you react to others and watch their eyes as you speak to them. They may not be telling you something you need to know!

Thanks again,
Sean

Sean McPheat
Managing Director
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What exactly is body language? Body language is a culmination of a variety of factors that describe the way you carry, move, or hold your entire body. The way you choose to move your body says a lot about how you feel or what you are thinking at any given time.

Today I want to clarify exactly what body language entails:

• The physical position of your body (where you stand, how you stand)
• The proximity between you and the person you are speaking or working with
• The look or expression you display on your face
• The way you move your eyes or focus your eyes on objects or people
• Your gestures in touching yourself and/or the people you are talking to
• The way you fidget with inanimate objects (like pens, clothing, etc)
• The way you are breathing (shallow, heavy, fast, etc).

Some people, including body language researchers, tend to leave voice inflection out of the overall picture. This is a huge mistake as a person’s vocal volume, voice pitch, and pace of speech (amongst other factors) can also say quite a bit about how they feel. While a person’s voice isn’t exactly a visible, physical sign it shouldn’t be discounted. Neither should things like the rate of a person’s heartbeat. They’re less noticable but speak volumes.

As a manager it is important for you to gain a great understanding of body language and how to read it on others. Understanding the motions or postures a person makes will give you a huge advantage when it comes to communication, as you’ll be better able to anticipate people’s thoughts or needs. It will also make you more aware of yourself during conversations as well.

Thanks again,
Sean

Sean McPheat
Managing Director
MTD Management Training

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